We did an awesome job of showcasing the good in our marriage. We had some great days but there were many days that were dark and ugly. We posted the perfect pictures on social media, but they didn’t tell the full story.

When is enough, enough?

There were so many humiliating moments. Should we have thrown in the towel and called it quits? We did seek counseling and were advised to file for divorce…

This book is for anyone who thinks that marriage is a fairytale. We want to help young couples considering marriage. We want to help all couples to avoid the pitfalls that caused us grief. Even if they fall in the same pitfalls as us; learn from our examples to maneuver out of the madness. 

We are no way a perfect marriage. But we are committed to fight & continue to grow as imperfect people who love each other. Marriage is sacred! We’ve learned to value each other and pray.  If couples can learn the art of dance early in their marriage they will experience love, bliss, and a lifetime of happiness.

"Phyllis has this ability to reach right off the pages and talk to me. Her words are insightful and powerful. I am left with a call to action, producing results."

"I wish I'd had this journal when I became a school leader 30 years ago! The leadership mantle can be difficult for women to comfortably wear while maintaining their own sense of self and strength. These reflective questions can help center a new leader or one trying to keep her momentum mid-career or someone like myself redefining goals in retirement. This journal and your answers can help solidify your style and strengths as you move forward in your personal or professional goals."

"Phyllis writes a great tool for actualizing one's dreams and loving the process. I am recommending this book to my clients."

"Phyllis' book emulates all that she is—her purpose! I couldn't put the manuscript down. Get ready for a spiritual experience that is destined to help you become the person you want to be. 'So, stop keeping your dreams to yourself. Shout them with conviction, and let your deeds mirror your thoughts. Trust and believe me, others who admire you are watching. They are also waiting for you to invite them into your dream. Without others, our dreams are just unanswered aspirations. You need others to move your dream to reality.' Simply put—OUTSTANDING!"

"This book had me at week one! 'Do you want to be right or be effective?' Having had the opportunity to be in the space of learning and reflection with Phyllis, I will never forget the day she said these words to me. Seems simple right? This book is a gift of insight that everyone needs to reflect on how their actions are impacting their lives, relationships, and effectiveness in achieving their goals."

Janet Gracia, Chief Culture Officer

"Be Right or Be Effective, is a great journal guide to help me get to new levels in many areas of my life. Phyllis Braxton gives of herself in a highly vulnerable space, which teaches humility is a huge step towards fulfilling dreams. The 'Wisdom Guides' along with the '5 A's' for each week are great motivation to get up, get started, and get moving in my purpose. Thank you, Phyllis."

"Beautiful, wise, inviting. This book is a fantastic look at the complex relationship we each have with success and imposter syndrome. Phyllis shares wisdom guides she has developed on these subjects and offers a wonderful peek at some tools we can use to step into our full self."